Just a dream?

The last month in Buenos Aires raced by so fast it was untrue. I’ve been back in the UK just over two weeks and time is still racing by.

I am doing exactly the same stuff now as I was before I went to Buenos Aires for 6 months. I go to work, I go dancing five or six nights a week. It is almost like I never went away, as if it was all just a dream. I have some souvenirs that prove it was real; a certificate saying I competed in the tango world cup, video of the event, lots of new email addresses and new facebook friends, new tango shoes I really don’t like. In November I’m going to Turkey for the Istanbul tango ritual and will stay with one of those new friends I made. So yes, it really did happen, and no it wasn’t just a dream.

I’m missing Buenos Aires but at the same time there are things about being home that I’m really liking – dancing modern jive and west coast swing again, being able to see my friends. I was expecting to find it hard to re-adjust to tango in the UK. I know a number of people, both leaders and followers, who have come back from Buenos Aires and struggled to integrate the tango from there into tango here. Surprisingly it’s not been too hard so far. I’m dancing the way I adapted to dance over there. Followers can like it or lump it. So far all the comments have been favourable.

I will keep blogging. There are some unfinished posts from Buenos Aires that I will knock into shape and then the focus might change a bit. At least until I manage to get back there.

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13 Responses to “Just a dream?”

  1. Cherie says:

    Glad to see you’re posting again!

  2. jamesy says:

    Never compromise …dance the way you feel and have been taught it can only help the gals of the UK
    Keep posting your thoughts about your experiences and the differences between the two cultures.

    • Mark says:

      That’s one thing Ruben and Cherie drummed into me – dance your own dance. Hence the like it or lump it. The new me is yet to be tested outside my “home” tango community. Hopefully it will get a warm reception.

  3. Mostlysane says:

    I do like this blog. :)

    So the next question. Would you be tempted to go back and plans to do so?

    And when do we see the new improved Tango?

    • Mark says:

      Thanks, Andy.
      I will definitely go back. We can have a chat about it next time I see you.
      The new improved tango is nothing special to watch, but feel free to come along to a milonga some time. We can chat about that too.

  4. Tangobob says:

    Your local followers are getting used to someone who has learnt to dance for his partner, not the audience.
    Don’t loose the Buenos Aires feeling, we are too few in the UK. Like it or limp it? Most women I have come across like it that way, it is only the men who want to show off.
    Keep spreading the word.

  5. jantango says:

    Taking a leave of absense from work for six months is a dream that never happens for some, but you did it. That’s the way to experience tango in Buenos Aires by getting to know the city, the people, and the milongas over a longer period of time. Two weeks may be a dream trip for some, but it passes by in a flash. You can only absorb the culture by living here and taking each day as it comes.

    Being exposed to the culture of tango where people live and breathe it is bound to change anyone’s dancing. That’s what it’s all about.

    • Mark says:

      I was indeed very fortunate. I am envious of you and other ex-pats who have made the move permanently. I tried to stay for longer but it really did make sense to come back to the UK.
      But I will dance again in BsAs.

  6. Mari says:

    Tangobob is right – there aren’t enough dancers generally, who have learned to dance for their partners. Maybe it just doesn’t sell classes, I don’t really know. Maybe because it is so much harder, and feels so much riskier. But it’s so worth it. I’m so happy that you had (actually made for yourself) such a wonderful opportunity to dive into the deep end. (And equally happy that you share so much of your adventure with us.) Abrazos y besos

    • Mark says:

      Thanks for the comment, Mari. I’ll reply properly as soon as I can.

    • Mark says:

      Well that took longer than I expected! Sorry.

      In a world more concerned with style than substance it’s not surprising that a lot of people are more concerned with what spectators think of their dancing than what it feels like for their partner. So it’s not surprising there are some teachers who only cater to their students’ desires to look “flash”. Fortunately there are others with more integrity.

      6 months in Buenos Aires really was a wonderful opportunity, and one I will repeat as soon as possible.

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